I’m a lover not a fighter….

Despite recently punching a girl in the face, I swear I’m a lover and not a fighter. ;)

Now I will admit I am somewhat of a cynic when it comes to matters of the heart. I was never one of those girls who had a boyfriend all the time. Not because I couldn’t have one (yes, I realize my EGO is out of control :D ) but because I simply chose not to.
I was always in awe of my female friends who seem to hop from boy to boy, never having any down time. No down time to really know, in my opinion, who they were and what they truly wanted. They also always seem to be in love all the time. Really, I think most of them were just in love with being in love. That’s just never been my style.

Perhaps it’s because I can count on one hand how many times I’ve been in love. I certainly believe in it. I know it exists. I just used to be quite picky….well, still am.
“You see how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet.” Now granted Cher (Alicia Silverstone) was talking about her virginity in the movie but I can apply it to my heart as well.
Some of you may be familiar with the three date rule? If you’re not, it basically is that come the third, that is the sex date. Now I NEVER followed that rule at all, give it up when you want to give it up. And if you are under the age of 18 and read my blog…just don’t do it, that’s my PSA for the day (cue the cheesy music).
But in my own way, I had my three rule. But mine was three weeks…and not sex related. If you lasted three weeks dating me, chances are you were in it for the long haul. Only problem was, very few made it to the three weeks.

I think I had a little dating ADD or I just knew it wasn’t what I wanted and decided it was best to move on. Now, I am a good breaker upper. Guys were usually taken back by response when being broken up with. I thanked them. Not for breaking up. But for the experience and time we had together. That’s it. I learned early on, I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. Plain and simple. Sadly, I can’t say the people I broke up with left so gracefully. Somehow they seemed to end up drunk on my porch pounding on my door. Until my friend L’s husband would come over and remove them (he is a large guy). In fact, it became quite the joke. When guys I was dating would meet him at a party or what not, he would introduce himself as “Hi, I’m J, in about two weeks I’ll be removing your drunk ass off of Peabody’s porch”. Sad thing was it was a joke, but kind of true. :)

One thing I never had a problem professing my love for was cheesecake. I mean I hosted a whole event dedicated to it. Next to bread pudding, it’s my favorite.
This particular one has a lovely chocolate-hazelnut cookie crust, which the extra makes for great sandwich cookies. You can spread some Nutella between the two cookies…good stuff.
You don’t have to make the heart pattern on the cheesecake. Truthfully, I started off trying to make the maple leaf but that went really, really badly. So I went back to hearts. But you can just swirl away if you like all the same.

Lastly, a shout out to my husband on this Pi Day ( 3.14), it’s our 6 year wedding anniversary. Six years ago today he decided to put up with me on a daily legal basis. Lucky him. :)

Raspberry Swirl Cheesecake with Chocolate-Hazelnut Cookie Crust

Chocolate-Hazelnut Cookie Crust

12 oz unsalted butter, softened
1 ¾  cups powdered sugar
1 egg
2 cups flour
1 cup cornstarch
1 ¾  cups ground hazelnuts
½ cup unsweetened cocoa powder

Using a stand mixer with a paddle attachment, cream the butter with the sugar until light. Add in the egg and mix well.

Mix together the flour, cocoa powder, ground hazelnuts, and cornstarch.

Add this to the creamed mixture and blend.

Form the dough into a bowl and wrap in plastic. Chill for about 4 hours.

This makes WAY more than you need for the crust. So press the crust onto the bottom of a 10-inch spring form pan that has been lined with parchment paper and sprayed with baking spray. Prick bottom with fork. Make the crust about ¼ inch thick. Bake at 350F for 10 minutes. Let cool. Follow the directions down in the cheesecake portion.

For the extra dough…make cookies:

Roll out the dough to ¼  inch thickness. Cut with a cookie cutter(I chose to make hippos but any shape will do).

Chill the cookies for 10 minutes and preheat oven to 325F.

Bake cookies for about 10 minutes or until lightly browned. Cool on a rack.

Raspberry Swirl Cheesecake Filling

1/3 cup raspberry jam
2 ½  pounds (yes pounds, don’t write me asking me if this is right)  cream cheese, at room temperature
2 ½ cups granulated sugar
2 TBSP flour
5 eggs
1 tsp vanilla
1 ½  cups raspberries, pureed and strained
Preheat oven to 350F.

Using a stand mixer with the paddle attachment, cream the cheese and sugar until soft. Add in eggs one at a time.

Mix until incorporated and scrape down the bowl down occasionally.

Add flour and mix well. Stir in the vanilla.

Spread the raspberry jam over the cooled crust coming about ½  inch from the edge.

Pour in 1/3 of the cheesecake batter. Then drizzle half of the puree on top. Repeat with more cheesecake batter and then puree. Pour the last third of the batter on.

With a thin knife marble the cheesecake. If you want to make the sort of heart like I did, make a V with the puree and then shape it into a heart the best you can with the knife.

Bake in a water bath at 350F for approximately 2 hours.

Remove cake from water bath. Cool to room temperature and then chill over night.

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.” -Bob Marley

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  1. A nice flavor combination! I’d love a slice of that wonderful cheesecake!



  2. Happy Anniversary! What a yummy looking cheesecake.

  3. Ah, I love that quote of Marley’s. Love that it works both ways too.
    And isn’t it nice – you now have a “boyfriend for life.” Happy anniversary. Raspberries are a perfect romantic way to celebrate.

  4. happy anniversary, and i disagree–the heart pattern is an essential component of your lovely cheesecake!

  5. That’s a really lovely quote at the end. And the cheesecake isn’t bad, either. =P I don’t think I’ve ever made a swirled cheesecake. Might be time to remedy that, and I love raspberry anything.

  6. Love your post today!!! The cheesecake is definitely something to fall in love with!!!

  7. Happy Anniversary. Your cheesecake came out beautiful.

  8. Happy Anniversary! I love love love your stories!!!

  9. Joanna from Colorado says:

    Happy Anniversary!!

    I too love cheesecake, love the heart, and I love your blog. I am a faithful reader every day.

    And I LOVE that you punched a girl. That’s freakin’ Awesome. You can do a Katy Perry remake: “I punched a girl, and I liked it!” haha.

  10. Happy anniversary! Cheesecake is a total guilty pleasure of mine, and your flavor combo looks amazing :)

  11. Looks yummy. The crust sounds wonderful. Happy Pi Day! (and cheesecake is pretty close to pie!)

  12. Oh yum it looks divine as usual! Love how its heart shaped too – so cute. Happy Pi day and anniversary.

  13. Happy Anniversary, I really really liked this. Great cheesecake too.

  14. I love the pretty heart top. Happy anniversary!

  15. Happy Anniversary! I so enjoy your stories…………keep them coming!

  16. Happy Pi Day and Happy Anniversary to you!

  17. Happy Anniversary and Happy Pi Day!
    Love raspberry with chocolate and I think your heart design is sweet! So easy to fall in love with a cheesecake, isn’t it?

  18. Your sweetie made it waaaay past three weeks! Happy Anniversary Peabody! Love this cute cheesecake and the heart is so appropriate. Happy Pi Day, too.

  19. mmmmm. I love pi day!

  20. Happy Anniversary :), this cheesecake looks perfect, I love the heart design youve done on top, so pretty :).

  21. My husband was telling me today was pi day in USA. I said yes, I knew that, it is Peabody’s wedding anniversary! You really got cool points from him. He has a touch of the Asperger’s for number stuff and sequences. ( I am just shaking my head! The dork.)
    You got cool points from me because, I love cheesecake. I eat cheesecake on the first date.

  22. Cheesecake is always accepted well in this household. Happy Anniversary and many more.

  23. I read an article in the NY Times recently about how we (as a population) are replacing sex with food. As someone, like you, who can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been in love…I’m tempted to concur.

    I heard about this three date rule from a guy i dated last year. And thought it was preposterous. Although at the time I thought he was making it up just so he could get some.

    I love cheesecake. that I can say without any doubt or apprehension.

  24. Wishing you and your DH a very happy anniversary. Thanks for the cheesecake recipe.

  25. Happy Pi Day!
    Cheesecake has always been one of my favourites but I was off it for a while when I had to make it at the restaurant, it just got to be too much… I haven’t had it in long enough that I’m craving it again though.

  26. Happy Pi Day!

    I think I still have dating ADD…maybe even ADHD sprinkled with a little OMG and LOL. :) I am so set in my ways that it actually gets in the way. Oh well. Hopefully I will be celebrating anniversary’s soon.

    in the meantime…I am all about this cheesecake! ;) yum!

  27. Happy Anniversary! Your hubbie is one lucky man.

    The heart swirl is darling. I’m glad the maple leaf didn’t work out. Plus it works much better for Pi day.

  28. Happy 6th!

    Clueless… So much truth in that movie!

  29. Happy Anniversary…the cheesecake looks delicious.

  30. I just heard about the third date rule on Grey’s Anatomy. I never had before. I think it’s a girl thing b/c no guy I know had ever heard of it either.
    I just go w/ the flow :) I never really made it past 3 weeks myself until I met my current bf of 10 months. Go us. But yeah, I believe things have to happen naturally. :) Or baked like this cheesecake. Btw, totally agree, cheesecake is the best!!!

  31. See, now I think THIS is my favorite post of yours. But I have so many! I laughed out loud picturing your friend removing the latest drunk ex-bf from your porch. I think it’s great that you always knew yourself well enough and had the confidence to break up with guys who you knew just weren’t right for you.

    And congrats to you and your hubs on your anniversary!!

    Goes without saying that that is one fine looking cheesecake, too :)

  32. Cheesecake looks awesome!! Happy Anniversary! If more of us were as picky as you about men, the divorce rate might be a little lower!! Picky is a good thing.

  33. Happy Anniversary! Great post today. Loved your story and totally aggree with your sentiment. The cheesecake looks amazing!

  34. Happy Anniversary!!
    Wishing you love in your heart,
    laughter in your home, and joy in your life.

  35. What a great looking cheesecake…yum!

  36. Happy belated Pi Day and anniversary! I’m with you on the whole dating thing =) I was picky and independent too and in a couple weeks my husband and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary =)

  37. Happy Anniversary!

    I love the heart you made on the cheesecake. It’s so pretty!

  38. Gorgeous cake!!

  39. Happy Belated Anniversary!

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