So many a friend has suggested I look into divorce support groups. Which I decline because quite honestly, I’m handling it just fine. But one theme I noticed throughout a lot of the forums that I looked at were sad and bitter. Bitter. Bitter. Bitter people. Now I realize that every marriage ends for a different reason, but did you know there are websites dedicated to how to seek revenge on your former spouse and how to make their life miserable? I’m fascinated by this. I want to shake these people and tell them that if they expended as much effort into ruining their ex’s life into making their own life better, they would probably not give a crap about what their ex was even doing! But no, it’s so much better to blame the other person.  Self-reflection as to how you contributed to the demise of your own marriage is few and far between.  I often shocked people when I told them that much of it was on my end as much as my ex-husbands. Apparently no one seems to do that. I … [Read more...]