Bitter (sweet) is the new black…

So many a friend has suggested I look into divorce support groups. Which I decline because quite honestly, I’m handling it just fine. But one theme I noticed throughout a lot of the forums that I looked at were sad and bitter. Bitter. Bitter. Bitter people. Now I realize that every marriage ends for a different reason, but did you know there are websites dedicated to how to seek revenge on your former spouse and how to make their life miserable?

I’m fascinated by this. I want to shake these people and tell them that if they expended as much effort into ruining their ex’s life into making their own life better, they would probably not give a crap about what their ex was even doing! But no, it’s so much better to blame the other person.  Self-reflection as to how you contributed to the demise of your own marriage is few and far between.  I often shocked people when I told them that much of it was on my end as much as my ex-husbands. Apparently no one seems to do that. I do.

I personally want to see my ex happy. And I’m pretty sure he feels the same way for me.  The world is better when more people are happy than sad.

All the bitter talk got me thinking about bittersweet chocolate (because almost everything makes me think of food). This is a take on a recipe I made awhile back originally with Oreo’s. I wanted to make them with Trader Joe’s Candy Cane Jo-Jo’s but I realized that would be like the third thing that was chocolate and peppermint. This is basically a chunk of solid chocolate ganache. Um, yum. Easy, and can be made ahead. A perfect treat for hectic holiday times.

Chocolate-Hazelnut Crunch Slice

½ cup cream
8 ¾ oz bittersweet chocolate, chopped
7 ounces semi-sweet chocolate, chopped
4 ½ oz butter, chopped
2 TBSP hazelnut liquor
8 oz Chocolate Hazelnut Pirouette cookies

Place cream, chocolate and butter in a saucepan over low heat and stir until melted and combined. Add hazelnut liqour.

Place cookies in a mixing bowl and pour over two thirds of the chocolate mixture, and stir to coat. Spoon into a (12 ½ x 2 ¾ x 3 inch) bar tin lined with non-stick paper. I personally used a 4 ½ inch diameter spring from pan instead and a mini loaf pan. Pour remaining chocolate mixture over and tap tin to remove any bubbles. Refrigerate for 3 hours or until set. To serve, remove from tin, dust with cocoa(if desired) and cut into slices(I did wedges). Makes 16.

Source: Adapted from Donna Hay Simple Essentials Chocolate, 2007

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  1. Delicious treat and I love the “bittersweet” connection.

    Hang in there, dear Peabody. Hugs!

  2. This dessert looks absolutely fantastic. I relate most everything to food too, so I understand the connection. Hope you have a fantastic holiday season!

  3. I love your attitude! Hang in there!

  4. I have learned there are two types of people in the world, the bitter and the sweet. For the bitter, it’s always about how they were wronged, how to get even. For the sweet, it’s about how do I move on and make my life better from what I’ve learned. Glad to see you’re on the sweet side of the street (which I could pretty much already tell). Cheers!

  5. Hugs to you. You have a wonderful attitude and this is why good things will happen for you. And you make unbelievably wonderful goodies. I have to respectfully disagree with your friends and say that you definitely do not need a support group, unless you are going to be running it and showing people how to move forward with class.

  6. I hear ya…my divorce was final in September and I just want him to find someone who makes him happy. It’s all good on my end. And we can’t be bitter…WE BAKE!

    Totally making your guy pie. :)

  7. Now that is a yummy looking dessert. I’m not huge on chocolate but something fudgy is a different story…and I love piroulines. (Those are made in MS…they’ve even been on “Unwrapped!”)

  8. Looks gorgeous!

  9. “The world is better when more people are happy than sad.”

    I adore you, Peabody. You know that, right? ^_^

    (And that looks absolutely delicious!)

  10. hazelnut and chocolate…best combo ever!!!!!!!

    i just bought this computer and i near ruined it, fighting the urge to stick my fist into the picture and drag that baby out and sraight into my mouth, heck yes.

  11. That is so yummy!



  12. Danielle C. says:

    I hear ya! My divorce was final last July. My ex has NOT been easy to deal with and wants revenge. I always think that if he spent even half that time working on himself he’d be so much happier as a person in general. It’s sad really but some people just aren’t ready for that true self reflection and to put the hard work into themselves.

  13. Oh, my….

    Merry Christmas!

  14. i’m totally down with eating a huge hunk of chocolate. That always makes me feel less bitter. Maybe you should recommend making this on one of those forums. Chocolate DOES release happy hormones you know…

  15. Your blog is so cool ’cause of your attitude and the chocolate! Also, what’s your NHL team? I root for the Sharks and Bruins. Yes you CAN love two teams. Don’t judge.

  16. What a brilliant attitude. I wish more people felt like you. Oh, and your dessert looks unbelievable!

  17. Oh my! So much has happened since the last time I read your blog! How do you find time to blog and bake such heavenly nutty chocolatey wonders? Cheers to you, your recipes and your awesome attitude!

  18. O.M.G.

    I think I just found an after-dinner present for my family on Christmas day…

  19. Great attitude! Couldn’t agree more. My ex and I parted friends, remain close, and wish each other well. Fabulous recipe too – thank you for sharing, and may blessings and peace be yours in the year to come.

    Leigh Anne

  20. More people need to think like you and more people need to make this special treat :-)

  21. My parents are divorced…have been since 1997 and my mom *still* hates my dad. I wish she could look at things like how you are…much healthier attitude that will help you be a lot happier in the long run. Maybe some bittersweet chocolate will help my mom be happier = ) Thanks!

  22. There are website dedicated to making your ex’s life miserable? Really?


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