I like to stick strictly to the: don’t give advice unless asked and really wish more people would follow this policy in life. I often offend some of my fellow hockey players because they love to tell you how to play (not my current team) and I usually told them to F-off always followed up with Jesus loves you for good measure. I often confuse them because I will ask advice from players on my team. They players whom I want to learn to skate like. So because they see me ask other players they assume I want their advice as well, they are never happy with my honest answer of I don’t want advice from you because I don’t want to skate like you. Men don’t do well with a bruised ego.

Recently I have been contemplating something. I made a statement about this to a few people. And in return they basically started listing pros and cons to what I was contemplating. In to which I politely told them I don’t remember following up with, “and what do you think about this”? When did saying something out loud or writing something down become an automatic means for you to jump in and let me know what you think?

I think people forget that you are the one that has to live your life. If it becomes a mistake, oh well. Life is made of mistakes that you learn from. Either the ones you make yourself or mistakes you see others make and choose to go in a different direction (I have my older brother to thank for the go in a different direction approach). I mean unless your statement is like, I am thinking about starting a $200 a day cocaine habit, then maybe you might not want to say something to the person. If that is their statement, feel free to chime in.

Another thing I wish people would often keep quiet about is their food choices. I personally support all food choices. Meaning be, dairy-free, eat meat, don’t eat meat, only organic, which ever. But remember those are your choices and yours alone. I say this because often I get people upset that though I personally can’t eat dairy (because of an allergy)…well, I still eat it but rarely, I use it in my baked goods on here. Letting me know I’m not supporting the dairy free lifestyle. I’m not living the dairy free lifestyle by choice.

Fortunately they are making better efforts in the world of alternatives to dairy. I can’t have soy either so before that left me with rice milk (which I don’t like) and almond milk (which I like just fine but is nothing like dairy). Then one day there it was in my refrigerated section…coconut milk. Now, I tend to buy the unsweetened variety but the offer a sweetened and vanilla. Not only do I enjoy the taste but it gives me the creaminess I have been missing from the almond milk. They make some great ice creams out of it as well. I was super excited to see Trader Joe’s jump on this bandwagon and in their freezer case last week was a Strawberry Coconut Milk Frozen Dessert. Yay! I love it and decided to make it into a shake. Back when I was getting to eat real food (sigh I miss eating). It was super yummy and gives me something to look forward to.

Thanks for all the well wishes, the nausea is getting better (hope to be on something other than toast real soon) as is the pain, though to add insult to injury they called last night to let me know that I also have a UTI (look it up if you don’t know what it is) which is also contributing to the pain. Joy.

Strawberry-Coconut Milk Shake

2 scoops strawberry coconut milk frozen dessert (I used Trader Joe’s brand)

enough unsweetened coconut milk to make your shake thin (I used about 1/2 cup)

1/2 cup slice strawberries

non dairy whipped topping to garnish

Everybody but whipped cream in the blender and give it a whirl. Pour into glass. Top with whipped cream and enjoy.