Trying my patience…

I realize that I am supposed to be extra nice and patient during the holiday season but one thing that drives me crazy is when parents let their little kids try and do something over and over. And when the kids fails at it, do they do it, no, they continue to let the kid fail at it. EDIT* Apparently I have upset a few people  not let their kids fail. Of course let your kids fail. That’s how they learn BUT below are examples of when you probably shouldn’t be testing that out.

I have two instances this week alone. Number one while at Target the mom was having her little girl put in her pin number to the machine. Number one, not a smart idea to be shouting out repeatedly your pin number to your debt card and number two after the 5th failed attempt it’s best to move on. The line continued to form behind. After I kid you not the 11th time of messing it up the Target check out girl just got frustrated and ran the card as a credit card. To which the woman was highly upset and asked to speak to a manager. After she talked to the manager I went and spoke to him too. I explained that she was holding up the line and just trying to expedite the process. Sure hope she doesn’t get in trouble over that.

Then yesterday while going to Panera a little girl was in front of us and again her mom was having her help open the door. We stood there and stood there. And next thing you know 7 people are waiting on this little girl to open the door. I gave up and went around back and walked up to the front and ended up in front of them in line. Finally a man opened the door and went through and that woman threw a fit, to which the man rightly so said, I only get an hour for lunch, I don’t need to waste 30 minutes of it waiting for a door to open.

Seriously, it’s cute the first three times, but then after that, pay attention to the other people around you. We have stuff to get done. Like say, make cookies for cookie exchange. Which I have tomorrow. I chose to make these little gingerbread orange cheesecake bites that I saw over on Pinterest (yes, I am addicted). The original were made with store bought, which you can use, but I made mine from scratch as this is for cookie exchange after all. I added orange to my cheesecake flavor as well as I think citrus and gingerbread go really well together.

Are you going to a cookie exchange this year? If so, what do you plan on bringing?

Gingerbread Orange Cheesecake Bites

½ batch gingerbread cookie dough (recipe here) or store bought gingerbread dough (30 ounces)
4 oz cream cheese
2 cups powdered sugar
3 TBSP orange juice concentrate

Roll two teaspoons of cookie dough into a ball for each cookie. Place balls of dough into paper lines mini cupcake/muffin pan. Make a well/indentation into each ball of dough with a flour dipped mini rolling pin or the back of a measurement teaspoon.

Beat room temperature cream cheese with powdered sugar. Beat in orange juice concentrate. Place filling into a piping bag, cut off edge of bag. Place one teaspoon or so of filling into each area of cookie dough.

Bake at 350 degrees for 9 minutes or until cookie tested with tooth pick comes out almost clean.

Don’t over fill the cookies with filling as they will rise when baked.

Let cool before removing from cupcake pan.

Makes about 24 bites.

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  1. So when I read the first few lines, I thought maybe you’d been bitten by a bahhumbug….but when you started giving the examples, holy cow. I’ve never seen *anyone* do anything even remotely that rude when trying to teach their kids how to do something nice/responsible/etc. I guess I’m in an area that is more likely to just not teach their kids anything at all, but seriously, asking to talk to a manager after she was allowed to waste that much time? No thanks. It was very nice of you to talk to the manage as well. <3

  2. I am all for having my kids try new stuff, but only when it only impacts me. I can’t imagine having to make a ton of strangers hang out while my kid attempts to do anything for the first time.

  3. I’m the person standing in line that would have said something to the lady about thanks for telling me and the whole world her pin number and I hope she doesn’t drop her card anytime soon. But then I’m a grump when dealing with stupid people. Thanks for talking to the manager on behalf of the cashier. As a retail worker, that means a lot.
    I will be participating Ina cookie exchange, but haven’t decided what I will be baking yet. I’m waiting to see what others bring and will fill in whatever gap is left.

  4. Please add how many “bites” this recipe will make! This needs to be made in my kitchen very very soon!

  5. Amazing bites! I love that combination of flavors.



  6. I actually do have a cookie exchange to go to tomorrow. what a coincidence. :) I need to still bake. I think I’m making some eggnog cookies.

  7. @Jill – yes, what a coincidence :)

  8. @Pita- I was trying to be nice but I was so wanting to go off. I’m working on the kinder gentler me.

  9. Good for you to talk to the manager and good for the man rushing off to lunch.

  10. I haven’t experienced that first hand, but it’s another example of people living in their own little world not being considerate or caring of others. I always tell cashiers and the like to “take their time” and the momentary shock that I’m not going to yell at them because I was waiting is really disturbing. I mean, honestly, what do I have to do that’s so important?
    The cookies look fantastic, I was craving gingerbread today, and didn’t end up making it. Gonna have to live vicariously.. :) And I would like to setup a cookie exchange this year … how many people are usually involved ? I don’t know a a lot of bakers.

  11. Wow. That first paragraph was really written poorly. Normally I’m a huge fan of yours, but I think you are going to upset a lot of people with that paragraph. I understand your intent, but people aren’t going to keep reading to your examples. Yes, it’s really dumb for the woman to be having her kid do the pin number, and even more dumb to be announcing it to everyone.

    Yeah the parent holding up the exit at Panera should have been more aware.

    But YOU need to be more aware of what that first paragraph really said. You just told parents to not let their children try and fail and that they should do everything for them. Coming from a teacher that is even more appalling. You just endorsed parents doing their children’s science experiments, and homework.
    You just gave parents permission to not bother teaching their children anything in life because they might fail at it.
    You just gave the children permission to never attempt anything after they fail at it once. I have known hundreds of people that have become impatient adults because if they don’t do it right the first time, they don’t want to ever do it again, making a generation of impatient rude lazy people.

    Now having said all that, I do understand your reasons for your annoyance. I would have said something to that lady, because what she was doing with her pin was stupid. (Or if I was in a particularly bad mood.. I would have sweetly made the comment of “Would you mind holding that up a bit higher, I want to make sure I caught all of your card number so that I can go sell it to the crack dealer down the street.”)

    The parent at panera, I also would have politely said something instead of just flouncing out the back door in a huff.

    I realize you were annoyed, but please next time think about what you write. Yes, this is your little corner of the world. But that doesn’t mean people are going to keep coming back to it when you say things like that.

  12. I too agree with people letting their children bite off more than they can chew! I have 3 kiddos, 17, 10, and 4 and I have never been one of those annoying parents! I feel for the kiddos in those cases! Yes, I am hosting a cookie exchange and I am making iced mitten cookies, 3 dozen to be exact. can’t wait for the party!

  13. Working retail, I have like 10000 examples of this…. Yeah… You are better than me for keeping your mouth shut – and kudos for talking to the manager!

  14. Carole R. says:

    These look wonderful. Fast and easy if using prepared dough. Will bake a batch on Wed to take to Vet’s office.

  15. @Alice- I did not just endorse parents to do their children’s homework and science projects, and if I did then that if really freaking impressive for a food blogger to do and clearly I am way more influencial than I realized. :)
    Homework is at home. You aren’t holding up others who are not realated to you because you aren’t quite getting long division.

    People don’t have to keep coming back to it. I write what I am feeling/experiencing at the time.

  16. Rachel Moore says:

    Exactly how I feel! I have kids and I know that they want to try things but I also know that there is a time and a place. Busy retail outlets not the time or the place. I think teaching your children to be aware of others and not holding up lines in busy stores is a little more important then how to press buttons on a pinpad. As always you are not afraid to tell it how it is, I respect you for that!

  17. This was very nicely said, Thank you!!!
    This recipe looks great, It will go into my file!

  18. 15 years ago I worked retail, 3 Christmas seasons in a row to be exact. I had some very bad experiences with some very mean customers, some of whom thought they were always right-not! On the plus side, the manager’s always took my side. It isn’t the cashier’s fault that the $25 video isn’t ringing up for $5, it’s because that one is not on sale for $5; & just because you found it behind a shelf tag that said it was on sale, you need to read and realize what titles are on sale. I had 1 guy in particular come thru my lane, after he got frustrated while waiting 2 lousy minutes in line next to mine, and he was the one who got ticked off at the video that wasn’t on sale, he was with his wife who just stood there with a very embarrassed look on her face, but didn’t say anything, wouldn’t even look me in the eyes. After an eternity of me explaining to him I was NOT just giving him a $25 video for $5, he became upset and literally threw a bunch of greeting cards and their envelopes at me. Some flew over my head and landed on the floor in front of the register. I refused to pick them up, even after he asked if I was going to pick them up. I said to him, If you want them, you pick them up, after all YOU threw them. The kicker- his wife ended up picking them up…the manager got all sorts of calls from the other cashier’s while they were still in my lane- he got banned for life from ever coming back into that store. Sweet revenge. :)

  19. Well said en well done! It looks like it happens more often lately, too many parents putting their kids on a pedestal and are annoyed at the world that the world doesn’t always agree.
    Yes I do have children, Yes they are very much loved but I do like to teach them to take care of their surroundings and the people populating it.

  20. Hmm, I may have to add these to my Christmas baking list. I’m short on ginger/spice cookies this year!

  21. Well said. Sometimes people get a little too sucked into their own world.

    Love these bites!

  22. Oh, for pity’s sake, no one is saying that it isn’t okay for kids to make mistakes. What is objectionable is parents being unwilling to set boundaries of when enough is enough and being without enough sense to realize that it is not appropriate (e.g. when eleven people are in line waiting) and then having the audacity to complain because they think that not getting to open a door is stunting little Joey’s creative development. /end rant. Pea-these look awesome btw.

  23. Sure don’t want to cross paths with scary Alice (comment #11)

  24. Christine says:

    @Alice… Do you even realize what you wrote? Think you are blowing this example out of proportion a bit?? In what way did she endorse doing your children’s homework? I can’t believe people like you exist

  25. I really like the idea of using the gingerbread cookie dough like this! They look amazing!

  26. I think some people LOVE using the word Appalled ;) makes them feel high and mighty!…
    My daughter and I are having a cookie baking fest on Sunday :)

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