People often confuse my message of Love Yourself to mean that you shouldn’t do anything to change (if you want)….some also are Googling for inappropriate stuff ( ). This is not the case. My message of self-love and acceptance is one of realization. The realization that you are amazing just the way you are and to stop feeding yourself lies in your head that you are anything but.
I often get apology emails from avid readers who will apologize for going on a diet. Ummm, you may diet if you like and I’m not a diet priest looking for confession out of you. My issue with diets is how obsessed one can become. I can’t diet. If I diet it takes over my every thought. I can no longer enjoy foods. I weigh myself 5 times a day and freak out when the number goes up because you know I ate that day. Thoughts that if I eat something “bad” that I must now go to the gym for hours and burn it off because I am weak and suck and must be punished. If I lose weight it usually is never enough, often thinking gee the last time I lost weight I lost 5 pounds the first week this time only 2…I suck. If I gained weight that of course was even worse. When I was a WW I was at the point where I am sure I was only eating about 500 calories a day…so of course if I ate a normal amount of food I started to gain weight since my body was used to only living off of 500 calories. I messed up my metabolism big time. But even worse I messed up my mind.
Think of all the time you spend thinking/judging what you ate? How many of you are pigging out because come Thursday you are going to get in shape and 2014 is the year you finally get the body you want? If you are planning to diet starting this New Year I encourage you to start slow. I know, I know if you don’t see results right away you won’t stay motivated. The national average for staying strict on a diet is 2 weeks FYI so motivation is going away most likely any way. So why not make small changes? Science has shown small changes over time have a bigger impact. Same goes for the gym. Don’t run to the gym on Thursday and try and do a 2 hour work out (especially if you don’t normally workout). You will burn out or get hurt and then after a couple of times stop going. Studies have shown all it takes is FIVE times of doing an exercise to make it routine….the length of time doesn’t matter. So instead of going gung ho why not start off with going to the gym for 20 minutes? Do that 5 times and you are more likely to continue going and you can increase from there if you would like. (P.S. not a doctor and not offering medical advice…just thoughts).
But while you are making all these changes be kind to yourself….love yourself. If you don’t make it to the gym that day don’t tell yourself you are weak and can’t do it (remember the gym is for getting in shape…weight loss is mostly diet). If you ate more cookies than you wanted don’t beat yourself up. Figure out why you ate 5 cookies (other than the obvious they tasted good) and work on changing that. 2014 is the year I want people to share their gifts with the world. You can’t share your gifts if you are putting yourself down. If you can’t figure out what your gifts are start with asking your friends. Send them an email asking them 3-5 things that they think of when they think of you. FYI my friends when asked this said I was Genuine, Sincere, Witty, Loyal, and Creative. I’ll take that.
Cheers to you my readers and all you have to offer the world! All the best to you and yours as we start 2014!
P.S. If you are planning on dieting I highly suggest reading
The Slow Down Diet: Eating for Pleasure, Energy, and Weight Loss *note this is an Amazon Affliate link
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